Control

I have been thinking alot about control lately. I guess because so much is happening that is out of my control.
What is control really? The definition doesn't tell me much: To exercise authoritative or dominating influence over; direct. >laughs< What does that mean?

Looking at it closely it means I can influence and direct .... direct .... what?
Well, anything I choose.

Wait, that means that I can control anything? And that is the rub, we can only control that which is in our power to control. So as a sub I want to control the immediate world around me, to manipulate it so that I feel loved and needed and safe ( we all have specific needs). But in truth, I also seek one that will control that for me.
Why? What about empowerment, what about taking control of your self?

Well, that is very important. The definition of empowerment is to give power or authority to, or to enable or permit. So I accept that I have power and authority over me. I choose to give that power and authority to another. Is that not empowerment? To make a choice in my own best interests?