Don't be afraid to wait.
Taking on a relationship is a big step. But how long is too long?

You meet someone, and you and he seem to think alike. You enjoy each others company, and you spend more and more time together.
In the world of D/s, you begin to think of submission. Is he the right Dom for me? Can I be the right sub for him?
Too often that need to submit clouds the bigger picture. The fact that you have specific needs is forgotten


“The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.”
Maureen Dowd

Control

I have been thinking alot about control lately. I guess because so much is happening that is out of my control.
What is control really? The definition doesn't tell me much: To exercise authoritative or dominating influence over; direct. >laughs< What does that mean?

Looking at it closely it means I can influence and direct .... direct .... what?
Well, anything I choose.

Wait, that means that I can control anything? And that is the rub, we can only control that which is in our power to control. So as a sub I want to control the immediate world around me, to manipulate it so that I feel loved and needed and safe ( we all have specific needs). But in truth, I also seek one that will control that for me.
Why? What about empowerment, what about taking control of your self?

Well, that is very important. The definition of empowerment is to give power or authority to, or to enable or permit. So I accept that I have power and authority over me. I choose to give that power and authority to another. Is that not empowerment? To make a choice in my own best interests?