Love is ................

What is it that makes a day look brighter when you feel loved?
I am loved. What a warm and fuzzy feeling I have! And I wonder why I didn't feel it before.
I AM LOVED. I want to shout it out loud!

What is love? And what does it have to do with D/s?
Poets have defined love since the dawn of time. Well, they have tried. We have a lot of words we can use, a lot poems and stories to illustrate but it still somehow leaves one wanting.

Love is intangible, therefore trying to define it puts unwanted limits on it. It just is.

Look instead at the feeling you have, and that will help you. Feelings too, are hard to describe, but face it, you have a better chance at describing a feeling than describing love.

I am loved. Every thought begins with those words. Not consciously. But it colors the way I think, the way I relate to people, the way I choose to react. So it is there before each thought.

I am loved. I am safe. Again, those words run in the background of all I do and say. I FEEL protected and nurtured. I FEEL like there is a barrier between me and the "bad" things.

I am loved. I am safe. I am precious. Every thought is built from these words. I FEEL special and beautiful. No matter what I see in the mirror, or what someone tells me. I am special. I do not need anyone else to validate that.

The feeling is new to me. I never had it before. Oh I thought I did. But this is unique. I can use the word I. My thoughts, my needs, my wants are important. I am important.
Does He know He makes me feel that way? Yes, He does. I tell him and He sees it in me. He likes what He sees and rejoices in it. Is that not what a Master does?

Quotes

Don't you love quotes? I love to read words that make me think.

Whoever undertakes to set himself up as a judge of Truth and Knowledge is shipwrecked by the laughter of the Gods.
Albert Einstein

Pebble in a Pond

I drop a pebble in the pond, then another.
Watching the ripples circle out slowly and sure
Separate yet touching and sometimes they are one
I wipe a single tear as it rolls down my cheek
I watch the circles spread and finally split apart
Each still moving, but slower
As if wanting to wait for the other
Each circle unbroken in its self
Yet knowing it is not complete
I toss another pebble in the pond
I watch the ripples spread

Strong Men

" Strong men simply need women. This will never be understood by weak men. A strong man needs a woman at his feet, who is truly his. Anything else is less than fulfillment. When a man has once eaten of the meat of gods he will never again chew on the straw of fools. "

Explorers of Gor

Now, this is not about Gor. I have nothing against Goreans, some of my best friends are Gorean. But I do like some of their quotes.
I like this one.
A Dom needs a woman as a sub needs a Dom. Some will say it is not a need, but a desire.

Why?

The day starts out well, and slowly falls apart. I seem to remember days like that before I knew I was a sub, so why do I blame it now on being a sub.

Why is it so hard to express my needs and wants and desires? Do I need to have a Master to do that? Why?
A Master should know his sub, every hair on her body, every need before she can even need it. How can He when I don't know myself?

Do I want too much? Or am I not good enough?

What happened?

What do you do when you are blindsided? When everything you believed is shattered?
You think you know someone. You think that no matter what, you will always care for each other.
You count on few things, but that is one of them. Then WHAM!

You get slammed with the truth. The truth that others have been telling you for a long time. You fought and denied and now you can't anymore. You have to face it.

What do you do?
As Rascel Flatts puts it "You get mad, you get strong, wipe your hands.... then you STAND"
And that is what I did.

So You Think You are a Sub

You believe you are a submissive woman.

Everyone has a choice to make.

Submission is not sacrifice. Dominance is not absolute power. They are the compliment of each other and must bend to one another, conform and not overwhelm each other.

In order to have a place at a Master’s feet you must look into yourself and find what you have to give. And then discover if you are willing to give it.

You must have control over yourself and your actions. To do so, you must have some understanding of yourself, what you need and what you want. If you do not have control of yourself you cannot give it to another. This will be refined and change over time but first you must learn to control your emotions and your life.

You must have pride in yourself and know that what you are is  precious. You do not deserve less because you submit. You have a gift that in the hands of a Master will fulfill you. Be proud of what you are, but be sure to temper it with humility. 

You must know what you are willing to accept and what you are not and do not compromise on this. You work at the relationship before you are offered a collar and accept this Dom as your Master.

You submit to the Master, you surrender to him. Submission is not turned on and off like a faucet. A sub chooses to submit to a Dom, not to each and every request. If she chooses not to submit there is no D/s relationship.

You have the right to expect 100% from the relationship. You have the right to be cared for and challenged to be the best you can be.

You have the right to a Master that will meet you with the same willingness to commit to the relationship.

You choose what you will accept. If it is in submission that you find completeness, then accept that you are a sub.