Submissive
Power
Two words that seem to not fit together. Submissive is to yield, if you yield you are not strong. A submissive yields as a choice, think about how strong that must make her. She knows she has power, she knows she has strength. Yet, she CHOOSES to yield that to a Dom. She takes her power and gives it to Him to add to the power He has so that they both can benefit. What amazing strength that must take to see that which we know we control, released and given over to someone else to control.
“In the world there is nothing more submissive and weak than water. Yet for attacking that which is hard and strong nothing can surpass it.” Lao-Tzu
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
The Master
Are you a soft and gentle Master?
Or a cold unyielding Lord?
Will you treat me to pains
And pleasures alike;
Those I am familiar
And those I’d like to explore?
Do you have the patience to teach me new things?
Can you watch me,
Learn my subtle cues?
Will you listen;
Listen to my words, my heart?
Talk to me, I will listen.
Listen to me, I will obey.
Luna
A poem found in many sub's journals I am sure. But what does it mean? Does she really not know the answer to the questions? Or is this that initial "talk"?
What is she looking for?
Does she know what she needs? Does she know what she wants? And the Dom she is talking to, what can he respond?
Read it again.
I think she is asking him if he will explore her, if he will seek out that which she needs and guide her to it. After all isn't that what a good Master does?
One Master suggested it was like watching a flower blossom.
What she offers is the bud, will he seek the full bloom?
Monday, April 11, 2011
What is a sub?
I have been challenged to answer this, by one that does not think I am a sub. And he is right, I am not his sub.
What is a sub? What does it mean to me?
It means that I know who I am, that I know what I need and that I know have the power to fulfil my needs. Oh, then you might say, that does not mean you are a sub, you can do it alone.
No, that is not what I said, I said I have the power to fulfil my needs, and one of those needs is the need to surrender to a powerful man, a Dom.
It is a power exchange, I surrender my power to him, I give him what I am to mold to his will. But how is that fulfilling my need? I trust him, I trust him to learn what I need and with his power and mine combined to take care of my needs. I trust him to take my body, my soul and my mind to raise what we are separately to new heights.
It means I am vulnerable, it means opening myself to him to allow him inside. It means trusting him to take me places I may not want to be, but where I need to be. It means being there with me.
Wow, a lot of words and alot of work. Yes, it is just words until you have felt that feeling deep in your belly, deep in your soul that you belong to him and you will go where he will take you. Lot of work, lot of responsibility on both he and myself. And a lot of trust, I need to know that he has my best interest at heart, that caring for me is his priority because that is what gives him the greatest pleasure.
I give him my focus, my thoughts, my needs and desires. He gives me his control and with that control frees me to be the person I was meant to be.
Two sides to a coin. Without submission there is no domination. He needs me as much as I need him. The perfect symbiotic relationship at it's best. Does it always work that way? No, we are human, and we make mistakes. We let feeling rule sometimes and the little gremlins we all have inside.
But I trust that he will conquer that and take control. I trust that he will use me to fulfil the desires of us both.
I want to feel his presence with me all the time. Be it a collar or a look, or a tone of voice, I know I belong to him. And I want to be no where else.
What is a sub? What does it mean to me?
It means that I know who I am, that I know what I need and that I know have the power to fulfil my needs. Oh, then you might say, that does not mean you are a sub, you can do it alone.
No, that is not what I said, I said I have the power to fulfil my needs, and one of those needs is the need to surrender to a powerful man, a Dom.
It is a power exchange, I surrender my power to him, I give him what I am to mold to his will. But how is that fulfilling my need? I trust him, I trust him to learn what I need and with his power and mine combined to take care of my needs. I trust him to take my body, my soul and my mind to raise what we are separately to new heights.
It means I am vulnerable, it means opening myself to him to allow him inside. It means trusting him to take me places I may not want to be, but where I need to be. It means being there with me.
Wow, a lot of words and alot of work. Yes, it is just words until you have felt that feeling deep in your belly, deep in your soul that you belong to him and you will go where he will take you. Lot of work, lot of responsibility on both he and myself. And a lot of trust, I need to know that he has my best interest at heart, that caring for me is his priority because that is what gives him the greatest pleasure.
I give him my focus, my thoughts, my needs and desires. He gives me his control and with that control frees me to be the person I was meant to be.
Two sides to a coin. Without submission there is no domination. He needs me as much as I need him. The perfect symbiotic relationship at it's best. Does it always work that way? No, we are human, and we make mistakes. We let feeling rule sometimes and the little gremlins we all have inside.
But I trust that he will conquer that and take control. I trust that he will use me to fulfil the desires of us both.
I want to feel his presence with me all the time. Be it a collar or a look, or a tone of voice, I know I belong to him. And I want to be no where else.
Sunday, April 10, 2011
.........and so it goes
Things change day to day, and it seems minute to minute.
It is difficult to deal with change for a sub. We like some sense of stability. Some sense of continuity. When that changes, we are lost and spin out of control.
That spinning is dangerous to the sub's soul and has the ability to create bitterness and a coldness that never existed before. The sub then looks with suspicious eyes on everything. If we are lucky, we catch ourselves and work our way through it.
If we are unlucky, we fall to the ground and are shattered. Harder still to pick up pieces.
It is difficult to deal with change for a sub. We like some sense of stability. Some sense of continuity. When that changes, we are lost and spin out of control.
That spinning is dangerous to the sub's soul and has the ability to create bitterness and a coldness that never existed before. The sub then looks with suspicious eyes on everything. If we are lucky, we catch ourselves and work our way through it.
If we are unlucky, we fall to the ground and are shattered. Harder still to pick up pieces.
...........continues
When I look back on the journey many things come to mind. I am not the same person. I learned alot and lost a little of the polish.
What I remember most is the sheer ecstasy of the moments of perfection and the absolute pain of defeat.
Will I do it again? I don't know. There may be a Dom out there that can earn that trust and respect that I need to let go again. One that is strong enough to grasp me and drag me with him to hell and back. When and if I find him, I will think about it.
Just kidding...... if I found that, there would be no stopping me.
What I remember most is the sheer ecstasy of the moments of perfection and the absolute pain of defeat.
Will I do it again? I don't know. There may be a Dom out there that can earn that trust and respect that I need to let go again. One that is strong enough to grasp me and drag me with him to hell and back. When and if I find him, I will think about it.
Just kidding...... if I found that, there would be no stopping me.
How can a woman whose entire natural instinct be to submit to a master not submit to a man whose entire natural instinct it is to dominate?
Fear.
We have all had moments of wonderful ecstasy and moments of utter defeat. Once you commit, the need to is momentarily taken care of, but it requires daily nourishment. Without that , the doubts, the unsettled feelings take over and if not stopped in their tracks, destroy the devotion.
Fear.
Should that stop us from looking for what we need, what we crave, No, but it does put a level of caution that may not have been there before.
Fear
Remembering failed relationships. Should that enter into it? Not always, but we are all victims of our past. We can learn from it and grow. Or we can repeat the same mistake over and over. Or we can understand what is that makes us what we are, accept it and deal with it.
Fear
What if? What if I am not good enough? What if I am too good? What a great name for a puppet, What If. We are human. We will make mistakes and we will fail. A strong relationship moves past that and grows stronger.
Surrender
Harder to do than it sounds. Let go of the fears.
Fear.
We have all had moments of wonderful ecstasy and moments of utter defeat. Once you commit, the need to is momentarily taken care of, but it requires daily nourishment. Without that , the doubts, the unsettled feelings take over and if not stopped in their tracks, destroy the devotion.
Fear.
Should that stop us from looking for what we need, what we crave, No, but it does put a level of caution that may not have been there before.
Fear
Remembering failed relationships. Should that enter into it? Not always, but we are all victims of our past. We can learn from it and grow. Or we can repeat the same mistake over and over. Or we can understand what is that makes us what we are, accept it and deal with it.
Fear
What if? What if I am not good enough? What if I am too good? What a great name for a puppet, What If. We are human. We will make mistakes and we will fail. A strong relationship moves past that and grows stronger.
Surrender
Harder to do than it sounds. Let go of the fears.
Journey to a collar
A collar symbolizes the trust, honor and respect that both the Dom and the sub are responsible for. It is a commitment one to the other. Many have likened it to a wedding ring, but it is more than that. The sub making a decision that she will give her being into the hands of a Master, to use , to mold for the mutual benefit of both.
SO why a journey?
It is not something to be entered into lightly. Their is a great deal of responsibility involved for both the Dom and the sub.
It is funny, some people put more research into choosing a pet than in the person they commit to.
A collar is about commitment, a promise that Master and sub make to each other. A responsibility that each bears some burden in the relationship.
SO why a journey?
It is not something to be entered into lightly. Their is a great deal of responsibility involved for both the Dom and the sub.
It is funny, some people put more research into choosing a pet than in the person they commit to.
A collar is about commitment, a promise that Master and sub make to each other. A responsibility that each bears some burden in the relationship.
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